Is There a Way You Can Help?
Is someone you love physically ill? Or are they having a hard time with their job, their finances, or an important relationship? Are they anxious or depressed? Are they chronically irritable? Are they harming themselves with unhealthy habits such as overeating, drinking to excess or substance misuse? Are they held back by habit patterns that cause them difficulty, such as shyness, procrastination, or obsessiveness?
What Might You Do?
When a loved one is being destroyed by drink or other substance abuse, an intervention is called for. You may feel reluctant to do this, but if there is a need it should be done.
If a loved one is feeling significant anxiety or depression, you can help with suggestions to seek therapy, and by providing support for doing so.
If they are distressed by difficulties in their environment, such as their job or a problematic relationship, you can listen; because you may come up with some useful suggestions. And sometimes just listening is helpful, because it may enable them to work out a solution as they think and talk about the problem. And if not that, talking can at least allow them to discharge some tension and feel some temporary relief.
Sometimes it's best to do nothing, because there is no way to help them and any input from you will just aggravate them. But how are you to know when this is the case?
Take Care of Yourself
If you try to help but nothing good comes of it, you may feel discouraged. If your attempt backfires and causes them to be angry at you, you may feel hurt or annoyed. If there is a question of whether giving them some financial assistance might help, you may feel torn between a wish to help and a question of whether that would be in their best interest...or in yours.
How to Know what's Best to Do
It's possible to create a new mental pathway in your mind, which can help you with all of these problems; and, in fact, with all the other problems that you face, as well. That includes any problems you might have that resemble those mentioned above. I call this new mental pathway an Inner Guide. Once created, it works silently, behind the scenes, to gradually end all discomforts and solve all problems.
The first step in developing this capability is to learn how to do self-hypnosis, and to establish a regular routine for doing it. My complimentary Emotional Comfort® Tool will show you how to do this.
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